I read an article about the topic never give up recently. It's a facebook group called Sisters in Christ that gave me the idea. There was a picture of a duck climbing a wall. You may have seen it.
I'm 5'2" and I way 97 lbs at 31 years old. I'm a first degree black lt in tae kwon do.
I have a child & i'm a single mom.
If I had let all of my set backs stop me I would never have gotten my black belt.
Each day is a new day to try to dream the same dreams or to dream new ones.
Ever feel like you are going no wear fast?
Ever feel like what is the point? Ever feel like thr is too much sadness to make a difference? Ever wonder how other people out there make it?
I do not have all the solutions but a cheesy suggestion that I like. I think happiness has to be your own choice. I don't always want to get things accomplished. If I gave into that all the time could you imagine how depressing that would be & how much mor sadness that would add to the world?
I think I feel bad for all those in places where they don't have all the good food & access to doctors like I do.
I think being small is an obsticle for me. I think it makes me feel like I can't do as much as othr people can. I can't lift a lot, I can't each up high. I shouldn't let my differences keep me down.
I am made differently cause I am here for different reasons & I have new days to keep trying.
I keep trying find new ways to get out there.
I joinedmeetup.com the ther day. I went to my first meeting. I meet fellow photographers to discuss like interests with. It was a free group. Not all groups are free on it. I handed out some of my business cards for my cleaning services. New friends I meet can contact me & hang out or pass it along for other possible clients.
If we dwell in the well that may not work so why try it we let evil win. I think if more people learned that getting into trouble & having more kids then we can afford is just sensless we would be better off. I'm against abortion, but I think men & women should work hard & control themselves. I may be chastiesed for saying so but it's what ever.
I think if you have friends who have a dream to go for & it's not hurting anyone we should support them on it as much as we can & not be affraid. How can we live in fear?
Monday, December 31, 2012
Saturday, December 29, 2012
two poems
A single mother's wish:
12-25-12
(I wrote this Christmas evening)
I have many dreams of my own put on hold for someone more imortant than myself.
I have many dreams of my own put o hold for someone I love even more than myself.
There is someone I brought into this world a few years ago.
Someone who made me able to see how I need to change.
If I could have a wish I know what it would be.
I wish for people to see a world though me.
I am not trying to say I am always right.
I am not trying to say you are always wrong.
I wish for people to understand in a glimer of light the choices I make.
It's hard already for me to work, to do chores and to mee everyones criteria f how they think we should be.
If I'm having a bad day I wish you could get off your high horse and lend an ear and a heart
to help out.
Criticizing I don't take to well,doing this on my own.
I try my best to please if you could pick up on my cues that might be of interest to you.
Some peace, solitude, understanding and extra helping hands are welcome,
just not an ignoring shoulder or glare.
As a wish I'd wish for you to help us be what much more we can be.
We don't want to be burdens but blessings in our own disguise.
(part two)
Dear public schools:
All the students rush to their lines to go and sit in neat little desks.
They have many things to learn in a day, a year.
They have more to learn than what's in those books and those tests.
They have to lear how to deal with the dirty looks.
Sometimes some kids are a bit more sensative and oters even teachers call them
tatle tales.
It's all a combination of effors from everyone because we all have different
things about us.
We all have different things that make us unique.
Book smats are very important.
It's what gets us the jobs and carrers out thre we meet.
Maybe we can learn to develope tougher skin and a safer
place we can learn in.
It all seems so rushed for some.
It all seems as a gift for other.
We all deserve life long friends and good memories.
I think most of it starts in the home. Not all of it,
I may disagree. Can you control how much you laugh at
someone elses misfortunes.
It may mean the world for them.
I send my own child into these schools. All I want is for his safety
and education which is more then those books and tests.
12-25-12
(I wrote this Christmas evening)
I have many dreams of my own put on hold for someone more imortant than myself.
I have many dreams of my own put o hold for someone I love even more than myself.
There is someone I brought into this world a few years ago.
Someone who made me able to see how I need to change.
If I could have a wish I know what it would be.
I wish for people to see a world though me.
I am not trying to say I am always right.
I am not trying to say you are always wrong.
I wish for people to understand in a glimer of light the choices I make.
It's hard already for me to work, to do chores and to mee everyones criteria f how they think we should be.
If I'm having a bad day I wish you could get off your high horse and lend an ear and a heart
to help out.
Criticizing I don't take to well,doing this on my own.
I try my best to please if you could pick up on my cues that might be of interest to you.
Some peace, solitude, understanding and extra helping hands are welcome,
just not an ignoring shoulder or glare.
As a wish I'd wish for you to help us be what much more we can be.
We don't want to be burdens but blessings in our own disguise.
(part two)
Dear public schools:
All the students rush to their lines to go and sit in neat little desks.
They have many things to learn in a day, a year.
They have more to learn than what's in those books and those tests.
They have to lear how to deal with the dirty looks.
Sometimes some kids are a bit more sensative and oters even teachers call them
tatle tales.
It's all a combination of effors from everyone because we all have different
things about us.
We all have different things that make us unique.
Book smats are very important.
It's what gets us the jobs and carrers out thre we meet.
Maybe we can learn to develope tougher skin and a safer
place we can learn in.
It all seems so rushed for some.
It all seems as a gift for other.
We all deserve life long friends and good memories.
I think most of it starts in the home. Not all of it,
I may disagree. Can you control how much you laugh at
someone elses misfortunes.
It may mean the world for them.
I send my own child into these schools. All I want is for his safety
and education which is more then those books and tests.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
cleaning why it's important
Hello again,
I'm back!!! If that's a good thing or a bad thing it deepends on you. lol I have been doing lot of research on finding cleaning jobs. Most sites that have people adverstise are wanting a montly payment. I'm sure there are more good ones out there besides care.com. I think friends who know other people besides who I know are a very good way to start.
Cleaning someone elses house is much different then cleaning your own. Sometimes you have more days to clean some areas as opposed to a few hours. If they want you back you have to do it top to bottom and say what you do and do not handle. I think for me starting off cleaning in businesses has deffinatly made me realise I would much rather clean houses. I don't have stals to clean only a bath room or two. I don't have a bunch of coustomers running in and out of a store. I only have one family or person at a time. I think it is much easier to build up trust because working for yourself you can make contracts. As opposed to working at a store you have do go by their rules. I have found sometimes at stores they expect you to be plumbers almost. If I were cleaning a house I would say that I do not handle plumbing issues and I do not repair carpets, I only vacuum them. Also you may have to say if you can help them declutter or not. Some people may want all their stuff but not get rid of it. One more thing, let them know if you cook or not, some people may think you will but I do not cook.
There are boards along the walls of the house at the bttom you can wipe off, dishes to do, laundry ask if they want new bedding or dusting. Sometimes they may have a room they prefer you to stay away from.
I feel the hardest part is building up the clients first. It takes time and people have to be willing to help you. Sometimes working for toher companies seems like a good idea but they want you to have experience of a couple years first. Lots of moms I feel would be great at house cleaning. Some mom's jsut do not want the time. I saw the best add that said "Give the gift of clean." It can be a gift if you know someone who needs it but can't afford it then offer it for them. Sometimes I try to think of my own catch phrases but lots are taken.
I think what is great about me trying to become a house keeper is that I have a child to clean up after as well as teach him how to clean on his own. I also am comfortable around pets seeing that I have a few. I think having a resume present helps and possably a business card to look more professional.
Being a mom I have to learn how to multi task and maintain order. Doing laundry and dishes and vacuuming is a part of my every day routine so why not try to make a living of it for someone else who doesn't have the time?
Plus if I work for myself I don't have to worry aout someone elses schedule like a managers. I just have to say I have to drop my son off first and then I can come over and clean by around 10 am if that suits. Sometimes for mom's it can be hard to find a good job with a tight schedule and little help. So you can kill two birds with one stone. Find someone willing to work and work it appropriatly to schedule needs. Find an individual who want to clean for someone who doesn't and will pay. People don't always have to go out far over seas to help others, look in your own town.
Merry Christmas!! Happy New year!!!
-Wendy Georgia Lovelace
I'm back!!! If that's a good thing or a bad thing it deepends on you. lol I have been doing lot of research on finding cleaning jobs. Most sites that have people adverstise are wanting a montly payment. I'm sure there are more good ones out there besides care.com. I think friends who know other people besides who I know are a very good way to start.
Cleaning someone elses house is much different then cleaning your own. Sometimes you have more days to clean some areas as opposed to a few hours. If they want you back you have to do it top to bottom and say what you do and do not handle. I think for me starting off cleaning in businesses has deffinatly made me realise I would much rather clean houses. I don't have stals to clean only a bath room or two. I don't have a bunch of coustomers running in and out of a store. I only have one family or person at a time. I think it is much easier to build up trust because working for yourself you can make contracts. As opposed to working at a store you have do go by their rules. I have found sometimes at stores they expect you to be plumbers almost. If I were cleaning a house I would say that I do not handle plumbing issues and I do not repair carpets, I only vacuum them. Also you may have to say if you can help them declutter or not. Some people may want all their stuff but not get rid of it. One more thing, let them know if you cook or not, some people may think you will but I do not cook.
There are boards along the walls of the house at the bttom you can wipe off, dishes to do, laundry ask if they want new bedding or dusting. Sometimes they may have a room they prefer you to stay away from.
I feel the hardest part is building up the clients first. It takes time and people have to be willing to help you. Sometimes working for toher companies seems like a good idea but they want you to have experience of a couple years first. Lots of moms I feel would be great at house cleaning. Some mom's jsut do not want the time. I saw the best add that said "Give the gift of clean." It can be a gift if you know someone who needs it but can't afford it then offer it for them. Sometimes I try to think of my own catch phrases but lots are taken.
I think what is great about me trying to become a house keeper is that I have a child to clean up after as well as teach him how to clean on his own. I also am comfortable around pets seeing that I have a few. I think having a resume present helps and possably a business card to look more professional.
Being a mom I have to learn how to multi task and maintain order. Doing laundry and dishes and vacuuming is a part of my every day routine so why not try to make a living of it for someone else who doesn't have the time?
Plus if I work for myself I don't have to worry aout someone elses schedule like a managers. I just have to say I have to drop my son off first and then I can come over and clean by around 10 am if that suits. Sometimes for mom's it can be hard to find a good job with a tight schedule and little help. So you can kill two birds with one stone. Find someone willing to work and work it appropriatly to schedule needs. Find an individual who want to clean for someone who doesn't and will pay. People don't always have to go out far over seas to help others, look in your own town.
Merry Christmas!! Happy New year!!!
-Wendy Georgia Lovelace
Friday, December 14, 2012
creativity
Hello again,
I have beeb doing lots of investigating on things to do at home. For me I feel I am going to try to be a hostess at a restraunt. I have not picked any one particular one yet but I think it could work. I may not have ideal help now but I could work evenings on weekends and pick my locations.
I admire people who can be that creative person and find ways to make a little extra money hear and there from home. My favorite idea was selling books you don't need any more cause you've read them. I have a few books I jsut tend to give my stuff to good will cause I'm too lazy to have a yard sale. I hear people don't always make much at those. Then when it comes to it eventually wouldn't you run out of stuff to sell though? For me I'd love to seel some of my books or cds even. I have my cds in a container and no longer have the cases but they are still work able. I have changed my style of music. I have quite a few pop culture cds I do not use any more. I have a yong child so I am very particular on what we listen to at home or in the car. I make a lot of art as well.
The only thing is I would have to make the right connections of people cause I would feel bad about asking just people I know cause I know alot of people have money problems as well. I work part time but it is kind of far away.
Here are is a small list of legit ways to make some money if you know the way to advertise and people to make connections. This is just from googling efforts.
Pet sittig: It is becoming a big trend because a lot of people realize how uncomfortable their pets are away from home. I do not smoke so for me this would be a plus.
baby sitting: I worked at a day care for a while and after taking some classes and that I have discovered I like babysitting at my home or someone elses home. I have pets so I have to be aware of peoples allergies. I love children just a few at a time because other people that help at day cares tend to leave you to do their own things. It depends if you have a really good day care. If you have your own kids you can always suggest that and lots of people like play dates for thiers.
garage sales: Garage sales can get you seom stuff but you have to be willing to part with stuff. Plus it helps if you can get up in the am. People love to go for those early cause that's when the good stuff sells. Normally by the time I get there it's just nick nacks you can find any where.
Cleaning: Do you like to be organized? I am not great at it but I try. I love to dust and I love to put things away. It's time consuming and relaxing. Maybe you can't make money from this at home but you can control your ours. I have learned looking for work under someone else they may not always under stand your schedule. I am just about always early. It's one of my good qualities. I love taking my son to school and picking him up. I figured if I was my own boss I could do that, sometime I'd need help. Plus if you use your wn supplies you'd probably have to work that into the price.
I'm sure there are other ways. This is a small start so I'm always lookin for responses. I'd love t hear from you. Take care and Merry Christmas!!
I have beeb doing lots of investigating on things to do at home. For me I feel I am going to try to be a hostess at a restraunt. I have not picked any one particular one yet but I think it could work. I may not have ideal help now but I could work evenings on weekends and pick my locations.
I admire people who can be that creative person and find ways to make a little extra money hear and there from home. My favorite idea was selling books you don't need any more cause you've read them. I have a few books I jsut tend to give my stuff to good will cause I'm too lazy to have a yard sale. I hear people don't always make much at those. Then when it comes to it eventually wouldn't you run out of stuff to sell though? For me I'd love to seel some of my books or cds even. I have my cds in a container and no longer have the cases but they are still work able. I have changed my style of music. I have quite a few pop culture cds I do not use any more. I have a yong child so I am very particular on what we listen to at home or in the car. I make a lot of art as well.
The only thing is I would have to make the right connections of people cause I would feel bad about asking just people I know cause I know alot of people have money problems as well. I work part time but it is kind of far away.
Here are is a small list of legit ways to make some money if you know the way to advertise and people to make connections. This is just from googling efforts.
Pet sittig: It is becoming a big trend because a lot of people realize how uncomfortable their pets are away from home. I do not smoke so for me this would be a plus.
baby sitting: I worked at a day care for a while and after taking some classes and that I have discovered I like babysitting at my home or someone elses home. I have pets so I have to be aware of peoples allergies. I love children just a few at a time because other people that help at day cares tend to leave you to do their own things. It depends if you have a really good day care. If you have your own kids you can always suggest that and lots of people like play dates for thiers.
garage sales: Garage sales can get you seom stuff but you have to be willing to part with stuff. Plus it helps if you can get up in the am. People love to go for those early cause that's when the good stuff sells. Normally by the time I get there it's just nick nacks you can find any where.
Cleaning: Do you like to be organized? I am not great at it but I try. I love to dust and I love to put things away. It's time consuming and relaxing. Maybe you can't make money from this at home but you can control your ours. I have learned looking for work under someone else they may not always under stand your schedule. I am just about always early. It's one of my good qualities. I love taking my son to school and picking him up. I figured if I was my own boss I could do that, sometime I'd need help. Plus if you use your wn supplies you'd probably have to work that into the price.
I'm sure there are other ways. This is a small start so I'm always lookin for responses. I'd love t hear from you. Take care and Merry Christmas!!
Thursday, December 13, 2012
scams R us
Hello friends,
Why is it that when something seems to good to be true it usually is? I really would like to stay home and take surveys all day. Why is it that when I start they link to "get this free" then tey want to take you to like 20 different thngs. Then you find yourself waisting an hour and you got nothing cause you don't want to buy and thing if it's supposed to be free. Well I feel that I have very few skills out there. I know how to do the basics of keeping up with a house but I need more then that. I kind of really want to go back to school but the thought of getting there and balancing more to my scheule is very intimidating. Plus I've never been good at taking tests. I really would like to find out how people make their own web sites and such to advertise.
Basically what I know how to do is laundry, dishes, dusting, vacuuming, taking pictures, taking care of the pets, getting my son ready for school, & so on. I do not have very great math skills to get very far. I need to elaborate on those and get them to grow. Math just makes me very nervous.
With what I do know how to do I do not get any credit for it. How can I make myself anything if I do not go back to school and try. Could I ever win money writing an awesome poem or essay or book? How do those links work? Often scholarships link to the fafsa and I already filled out that. If any one has advice I'd love to hear it.
I have reasons why certain people are not in my life and that is off to the side for personal conversations.
I feel as mom's we get short handed cause the outside world views us as people who take off too much for putting our kids first. Sometimes we have to. I am so glad I have the help I do but it istime I start branching out on my own. I need to take what I've learned in my house and apply it out there.
Who would have thought I live in a world where being the one on the interview has to ask questions at the end? I learned certain questions like health benefits and do you mind leaving early are bad questions. THey prefer if you ask things like "What motivates you to come in to work?" Or "wuld you hire me?" I think those questions would depends on what kind of profssion you are involved with. If it's a fast food job I don't think everyone feels the same as one with a degree.
However sometimes it helps when someone says, "Hey I know a person wh would be gret for this job or they need something I'd like to help them."
I don't see myself as being resued by a prince charming in the near future. It would have already happend by now and internet dating is just full of weirdos.
So as I stated if anyone has tips or just wants to help us let me know. Help can be just watching Caleb so my dad doesn't have to do it all or what ever. Or you can help by finding someone for me to clean for to earn some money. Or can I take pictures of you for my portfolio?
I jsut can't sit around waiting for someone to call I always have stuff to do it seems. It's just to make them worth my time, talent and money.
Have a great weekend!!
-Wendy
Why is it that when something seems to good to be true it usually is? I really would like to stay home and take surveys all day. Why is it that when I start they link to "get this free" then tey want to take you to like 20 different thngs. Then you find yourself waisting an hour and you got nothing cause you don't want to buy and thing if it's supposed to be free. Well I feel that I have very few skills out there. I know how to do the basics of keeping up with a house but I need more then that. I kind of really want to go back to school but the thought of getting there and balancing more to my scheule is very intimidating. Plus I've never been good at taking tests. I really would like to find out how people make their own web sites and such to advertise.
Basically what I know how to do is laundry, dishes, dusting, vacuuming, taking pictures, taking care of the pets, getting my son ready for school, & so on. I do not have very great math skills to get very far. I need to elaborate on those and get them to grow. Math just makes me very nervous.
With what I do know how to do I do not get any credit for it. How can I make myself anything if I do not go back to school and try. Could I ever win money writing an awesome poem or essay or book? How do those links work? Often scholarships link to the fafsa and I already filled out that. If any one has advice I'd love to hear it.
I have reasons why certain people are not in my life and that is off to the side for personal conversations.
I feel as mom's we get short handed cause the outside world views us as people who take off too much for putting our kids first. Sometimes we have to. I am so glad I have the help I do but it istime I start branching out on my own. I need to take what I've learned in my house and apply it out there.
Who would have thought I live in a world where being the one on the interview has to ask questions at the end? I learned certain questions like health benefits and do you mind leaving early are bad questions. THey prefer if you ask things like "What motivates you to come in to work?" Or "wuld you hire me?" I think those questions would depends on what kind of profssion you are involved with. If it's a fast food job I don't think everyone feels the same as one with a degree.
However sometimes it helps when someone says, "Hey I know a person wh would be gret for this job or they need something I'd like to help them."
I don't see myself as being resued by a prince charming in the near future. It would have already happend by now and internet dating is just full of weirdos.
So as I stated if anyone has tips or just wants to help us let me know. Help can be just watching Caleb so my dad doesn't have to do it all or what ever. Or you can help by finding someone for me to clean for to earn some money. Or can I take pictures of you for my portfolio?
I jsut can't sit around waiting for someone to call I always have stuff to do it seems. It's just to make them worth my time, talent and money.
Have a great weekend!!
-Wendy
Friday, December 7, 2012
Why mom's blog
Well it seems to be a chatchy thing to blog. I think sometimes my status updates fr Facebook can be a bit wordy for me and other friends so we blog. One big space to put it all in there.
This morning was interesting. My son didn't want to go to school, his stomach was clearly bothering him. After about 9:30am he came around. I think that he didn't want to take a test, been there with stuff I didn't want to do. Kid next time don't mention you have a test and you wont get busted. lol
Also I have had the hardest time looking for direction. I have a meeting on Tuesday of this week to see if I qualify for a big enough gant to go back to school at this amazing art institue. Some of me doesn't want to because I'm not the greatest at school. Some of me wants to to see how much I'm worth. Then there is always the option of nt going if I don't get enough. Might as well find out what I'm worth.
I really want to work in the day time when my son is in school to give me something prodcutive to do. I feel I have this big time block on my hands and I don't know what to with it. I would love to promote my wn cleaning ideas to others. I know for me I work better getting my stuff into clusters so it looks like I have more space. I like getting rid of stuff as well. I feel that it is a tough thing for some people as I have stated before to get rid of stuff. I enjoy dusting and I enjoy showing someone I wont just sit down and be a bum. I feel that I think that too many people take advantage of a good job and blow it by being lazy. I am someone who does the best of my ability.
Now I had mentioned before that there was a flood at my old work location. I think that they were trying to say i didn't pick it up fast enough to meet ther approval. Well the only thing loial I felt I could say to that was I wasn't trained on the tools. I had after all been trained on just tiding up. I don't see how that makes sense. I think that some people just don't want to do more than what's required of them but that is a cycle that needs to stop. I just feel some people don't listen. Maybe it's cause I'm a female, maybe it's cause I'm small. I don't know. I just want to do my best to put myself out there and show I do not do just half a job. When you put one person in charge of a big place it takes a lot of work. I have learned what it means when someone says, "Sell yourself why should I hire you?" I think they want to know if you're going to do thing with a lot of effort or hardly any at all. I want to be a hard worker to show my son what it is all about out there. It's a big world we can't run from everything we don't like. Somethings we have to stand up to.
That's about it for nw. Hadn't blogged in a while. Enjoy Peace out!!
This morning was interesting. My son didn't want to go to school, his stomach was clearly bothering him. After about 9:30am he came around. I think that he didn't want to take a test, been there with stuff I didn't want to do. Kid next time don't mention you have a test and you wont get busted. lol
Also I have had the hardest time looking for direction. I have a meeting on Tuesday of this week to see if I qualify for a big enough gant to go back to school at this amazing art institue. Some of me doesn't want to because I'm not the greatest at school. Some of me wants to to see how much I'm worth. Then there is always the option of nt going if I don't get enough. Might as well find out what I'm worth.
I really want to work in the day time when my son is in school to give me something prodcutive to do. I feel I have this big time block on my hands and I don't know what to with it. I would love to promote my wn cleaning ideas to others. I know for me I work better getting my stuff into clusters so it looks like I have more space. I like getting rid of stuff as well. I feel that it is a tough thing for some people as I have stated before to get rid of stuff. I enjoy dusting and I enjoy showing someone I wont just sit down and be a bum. I feel that I think that too many people take advantage of a good job and blow it by being lazy. I am someone who does the best of my ability.
Now I had mentioned before that there was a flood at my old work location. I think that they were trying to say i didn't pick it up fast enough to meet ther approval. Well the only thing loial I felt I could say to that was I wasn't trained on the tools. I had after all been trained on just tiding up. I don't see how that makes sense. I think that some people just don't want to do more than what's required of them but that is a cycle that needs to stop. I just feel some people don't listen. Maybe it's cause I'm a female, maybe it's cause I'm small. I don't know. I just want to do my best to put myself out there and show I do not do just half a job. When you put one person in charge of a big place it takes a lot of work. I have learned what it means when someone says, "Sell yourself why should I hire you?" I think they want to know if you're going to do thing with a lot of effort or hardly any at all. I want to be a hard worker to show my son what it is all about out there. It's a big world we can't run from everything we don't like. Somethings we have to stand up to.
That's about it for nw. Hadn't blogged in a while. Enjoy Peace out!!
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